Compromise is one of the key ingredients of having a peaceful home.
And if both the husband and wife are not ready to compromise then they would never agree. If one party is not ready to yield and the other is playing stubborn too, then it might lead to fights and arguements. And that’s why understanding and reaching an agreement are key elements of compromise.
A Mamalette wrote this and asked for advice:
“Great mamas please advice me. My hubby likes AC and I don’t, he prefers that we sleep like Adam and Eve (naked) and he sleeps carelessly there by squishing and removing the blanket we use for covering, if I put off the AC he gets angry and he won’t let me sleep in another room for he hates to sleep alone, this make me very uncomfortable and I often have cold as a result of the AC. Please how do I handle this?”
To be sure, our Mamalettes responded and these are some of their responses:
“Keep another blanket by your side and once he rolls away with the one both of you are using just take the extra and cover,with time he’ll learn to sleep without much rolling, another thing is that, you can agree to switch on the AC at temperature that both of you can bear.
Marriage is all about understanding, communication and sacrifice but not at the detriment of your health or life.Once the children starts coming in,things will take another shape. Good luck!!”
Talatu Larinde
“When he sleeps carelessly then pull the blanket from under him and cover up. That’s how I do my own oooo. “I no fit use shame chop witch!”
Angel Henry
No cause for alarm, poster since he likes sleeping like Adam & Eve with the AC on and the blanket falls off, wake up and draw up the blanket to cover you two. Making the blanket to fall off is not his fault either. So cover him like you will do to your baby.
Fafowora Anthonia Samuel
That is not a big deal since he can’t sleep without A.C he should learn to sleep without blanket.. When you see that he is fast asleep take the blanket and cover yourself, leave him naked to enjoy the A.C .
Kupa Omon
Also, some Mamalettes adviced that the writer should talk to her husband about the situation, so that a lasting solution can be found:
“I advise you should insist on sleeping in another bedroom otherwise let him consider what you think about the situation. If he doesn’t oblige then sleep with him with your clothes on, If he wants you to sleep like Eve, let him off or lower the A.C to a level that suits your body. He has to choose one of these. Don’t put your health at risk just to suit him. Life has no duplicate oo.”
Chika Odili Nwafor
“Just do what he likes, but ALWAYS remind him of the hazards of Adam and Eve sleeping style while the AC is on, you might contact pneumonia, God forbid that. One day, he will surely be tired of your complaints and look for solution to his love for AC and Adam and Eve sleeping style, then as the owner of the bed, sleeping with your baby (hubby) there’s no day you can sleep completely, always wake at every interval to cover yourself properly with the duvet and cover him too, this is one of those things we have to live with.”
Evelyn Okougbo Iyanya
Some Mamalettes are of the opinion that with time, she will also adapt, and before then the husband might change when he sees the need to.
” It sound funny but its not, because I’ve had the same experience about 8 years back. I frankly told my hubby that I was not train with AC . But he can not sleep without it, so we use 2 blankets, I’ll rap myself in one and we both share the second one. But now I can’t sleep without AC”
Ayoola Adedokun Ogunkoya
“I used to have the same issue but I have adapted and also helped myself. What I did was put the blanket beside me immediately my hubby sleeps I cover myself and wear my cardigan. I tease him that he wants to turn us to ice block. And when the kids are coughing and sneezing he realizes its not good for everyone. So most times I allow him to enjoy it alone before we go to bed. Immediately he sleeps off, I then switch it off.”
Chinonso Ejiofor
Well….as they say, seeing is believing, some Mamalettes opined that if you fake being cold and give him a demo of what will happen at the long run…he might change his mind
“Dear Poster , Option 1: this is what you should do, when he sleeps off, reduce the temperature of AC and get yourself a separate blanket, take a warm bath and put on socks.
Option 2: if I were you, I will just wake up one night and start shaking and shivering, hold your chest and act like you can’t breathe properly, be using your leg to push him so he’ll wake up and see you struggling to breathe, my dear if he loves you he’ll be the one to switch off the AC and start running everywhere to get blankets and cloths to cover you up, afterwards you will let him know that the AC is affecting your health and so you have to wear a night dress and maintain a balanced temperature. ( God gave us women the power to act o , please use it ) I pray God help you, waiting to hear that you overcome this problem.”
Abeesolar Bisochy Olayinka-Oguntuase
“Madam, firstly, DON’T ever try leaving your bed to go and sleep elsewhere. Secondly,Yes your husband likes AC, “you no fit form cold?”….sneeze,cough,blow nose in fact wake up d next morning and wear both your own cardigan and his own cardigan,when he asks what’s wrong, tell him you’re freezing due to the AC, then he’ll understand. Some men won’t hear until they see a demonstration…and also try keeping a blanket for yourself so that when he rolls the blanket off you, you can switch to option B”
Adeola Abiodun Ajayi
The final comment here talks about compromise, an agreement should be reached on how best to salvage the situation to suit the two of them.
“We are in the same shoes. My husband like AC and I don’t. We resolved to putting on the sitting room AC at night on high so gradually it will flow into the room and it wouldn’t be that much. If you can do that too it could be okay for both of you.”
Bukola Fatoba-Aina
As Mamalettes have all said, don’t keep your arms crossed. Communicate with your husband about the health implication of being exposed to AC for you so that you can both compromise and reach an agreement about the best thing to do, if that doesn’t work, get yourself an extra blanket as suggested by Mamalettes.
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