Mothers can get really sensitive about matters concerning their kids, and for good reasons. They were the ones that went through the pain of labour to give birth to their baby. But is this matter really just sensitivity on the mother’s part? Or is her reaction justified?
A Mamalette asked this question on our platform;
“I always have a disagreement with my husband on the way he’s raising our child. Any time my baby misbehaves, my husband will be so furious and beat him in such a way that his hands will appear in his face. I have told him times without number, he wouldn’t listen. I’m not the type of mum that overpampers a child and I believe in discipline, not maltreatment. He started when this boy was 7months, he slapped him because he refused to eat and spit it on my face etc. I can’t help raising my voice whenever he maltreats him which is too bad. Please, I need help, I don’t want to raise our child in a wrong way where it will seem to him that I’m supporting his bad character.”
Our Mamalettes responded and these are a few of their responses;
Some Mamalettes advised ……
“You really have to take it easy with him, the environment he was brought up might be contributing to it. Maybe he was brought up by parents that beat kids in any mistake.
Keep telling him that easy does it better, let him always take it easy while correcting them. Teach him to give punishment some times not beating everyday those children are not cow that Aboki people hit in any mistake.
Thirdly madam don’t raise your voice at your husband in front of your children, it will make them see their father as been wicked man while mum is nice. Please explain to him peacefully when he is happy that hitting them always is not the best practice. Easy does it better.”
Gudness Uc Eze
“Love and affection matters not beating. Sometimes you use other methods like when you guys want to go out, the child will not go with you, not watching his favorite TV shows, you can even write his offence in 2D Exercise Book and many more. In fact, if you beat a child in my school you are sacked. You can read more on handling children. Please educate your hubby more on that but with a low voice.”
Oge Molokwu
Report him ….. A Mamalette advised
“Don’t let him kill that child. Report him to everybody..your parents and his parents. Continue reporting so that any day he beats the child to a state of Coma, (God forbid) you won’t be asked to stay with him. Meanwhile keep talking to him about it when he’s in a good mood. But whatever happens, just know your hubby has got a big problem.”
Hope Osoma Okpuwara
Some Mamalettes said ……
“That one is child abuse o from 7 months never heard a thing like that. Look for a permanent way of stopping your husband from hitting your child, before he wounds him beyond repair.”
Nicky Uzoh
“What kind of husband is that? What an abuse on an innocent child!! Please talk to him and make him understand that hitting the boy won’t solve the problem. How inhuman!!”
Blessing Tennyson Blessing
While a Mamalette said ……
“That’s very wrong, he should learn to be patient with that child, or else it will result to hatred.”
Judith Nkechi
That’s not normal ….
“Hitting a 7 months old child! That’s ridiculous.That man needs to undergo serious deliverance.”
Betty Ejemen Omoregbe
Your hubby has a problem believe it or not.
Chiwendu E Salufu
“He is mentally sick and spiritually frustrated, how on earth can you hit a 7month old baby?? Is unthinkable? Abnormal and absurd… he needs mental and spiritual help, please. He is not in his right normal state of mind.”
Otunba Akintayo Merteens
The mother wasn’t wrong to react like that. And like Mamalettes have advised, do not reprimand your husband in front of your child so it won’t breed hatred between father and child. Meanwhile, talk to him and if he doesn’t listen talk to an elder who he respects who can counsel him on the evil of handling kids with an iron hand. Because truth is, it only makes them more hardened and even beating won’t work with them anymore when it comes to a point.
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