A Mamalette asked this question “How do I make sex fun while pregnant?”
“I’m 23 weeks gone, and according to what I have read online and my experience, making love during this period can be painful for some women and same happens to me. I have a big baby bump already so I find it difficult positioning myself to make love with my hubby…though he’s a very nice and an understanding man but last night, he made a comment jokingly that really touched me..he said it’s like he’s making love to a log of wood…that I don’t even try to make effort to do my own bit. These words really touched me but I tried to explain to him why it is so and its just for this period, he apologized but I still feel hurt. My question now is…can any experienced mamas tell me what I can do, no matter how little to make him enjoy making love to me and not to think that I’m a log of wood?”
Read some of the responses from our Mamalettes….
“From my own experience, penetration from the back is the only option when you have a big tommy, let him penetrate from the back and make sure you reserve strength for the moment, don’t always be tired. Manage yourself well before sex, because naturally you can be tired easily cos of the baby. Take a warm bath before sex in pregnancy and sometimes you have to sync yourself to enjoy it, sometimes I keep talking to myself that I need to help this man, though he is a good man but I don’t have to push him out, so I get my mind prepared for the sex, since sex is a thing of the mind. Just be determined to enjoy it and discuss with him to help you. For my second pregnancy I really enjoyed sex in pregnancy.”
Oluwabamikee Adekanye-Fajorin
“I’m not married, but there are some things, you shouldn’t allow to get to you. You are pregnant for Christ’s sake. Do you want to stress yourself in your present condition, to make your husband happy. If it was a reverse case, would your hubby do the same for you.”
Jane Nliam Chinyere
“You should not feel bad please. Pregnancy is a period, does he expect you to jump on him or what, he is responsible for how you are now so he should bear with you. More so you can get him informed by using mamalette or babycentre week to week pregnancy, activate his email let him read it and see what women are going through in this stage. Is not all about them please.”
Olayide Mary
“I’m carrying my third pregnancy and like 26-27 weeks gone, I’ve never experienced such. Maybe I’m among the few lucky ones, though I’d advice before you go into sex, your spouse should take his time and get you in the mood. I really agree with madam oluwabamikee, sex is a mind-thing, fix your mind to it and enjoy it.”
Mariam Uzodinma Ezimah
“I wish men can be allowed to carry babies in them then that way they would appreciate women the more. pregnancy is filled with bouts of different emotions and feelings, he should be happy you even allow him have sex. My dear once I’m pregnant my hubby zips up for a year, no touching or seeing him naked if I do I will vomit everywhere. If he has been understanding, he shouldn’t expect the best from you now. Don’t be hurt, talk to him when he is in a good mood and make him understand everything. I wish you well and God be with you. Please don’t do anything that will endanger your life and that of your kid in order to please him sexually.”
“Nne just don’t be scared of making love. Remove that fear in your mind and enjoy yourself. Fore play helps a lot. Since your tummy is big now use doggy style, him sitting down and you sitting on him. Just explore and enjoy it. Its not harmful only that Oga should go slowly.”
Chinazom Obi
“You know what, we are all different, when hormones kick in its hard to even like anything like that, you don’t even want it. I mean u are not in the mood, please try but don’t do more than you can.”
Beatrice Gbadebo
As Mamalettes have said, do not do anything that can endanger your baby, have enough foreplay for you can be very dry at this stage, but if you are wet you will be fine. Also, doggie, spooning should help you in having a better sex life during pregnancy.
You might want to read this article Sex Positions During Pregnancy for more enlightenment.
Helpful? Mamalettes did you enjoy sex while you were pregnant? How did you go about it? Share your experience! Visit our forum or post your comments below.
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