Are you tired of facing the endless work to be done in the house alone, yet you could not get your man to lend a helping hand in the house chores?
Admitted, men are macho and they feel doing house chores is beneath them and should be left for the woman alone, but sometimes approach matters a lot in everything we do. If you want your man to help in doing the chores, there’s a way you will apprise him of the situation and he will be ready to help.
But when you argue, nag, complain or order him around he won’t be ready be happy about the prospect of doing the chore, not because he can’t do it but because he doesn’t like the fact that you think it’s your right, meanwhile helping ought to be an affectionate and loving act, if only your approach is right.
What happened to promising him something if he helps with the chore? What happened to sweetly asking for help? Women have to learn a lot about managing their husband so they won’t be going through the process that doesn’t work in making their man help them out with chores. To get your man to help you with the chores simply follow this procedure:
1. Communicate
Your husband might think you are okay with handling the job if you don’t make it known to him how it stresses you out doing them all alone. Let him understand that you both should share the chores whenever he can lend a hand. Talk to him respectfully and pleadingly, don’t raise your voice as if you are fighting for your right. So that he can see the sense in what you are saying and not the pride or arrogance with which you say it.
2. Offer Reinforcement
Men like rewards, a happy smile, a kiss on the head or a heated kiss on the mouth can do wonders. And you will find him joking asking what you will give him next time he wants to do something for you. When it becomes exciting/rewarding for him to help with the chore, he will be ever ready to help.
3. Create A List Of All The Work
Make a comprehensive list of all the works to be done. After you’ve already communicated to him how much you need his help, this is the next step. Without excluding anything make the list, this will help you in the dividing the chores among yourselves.
4. Let Him Take His Pick
Now that the list is ready, don’t just shove some chores at him, show him the list and let him pick the ones he can do. Truth be told there are some chores that a man shouldn’t be caught doing, it wouldn’t look good for both you and your husband. after choosing the ones he can do, paste the list someone conspicuous where only you and him can have access to it(you don’t want visitors making comments about your husband’s domesticity).
5. Appreciate His Help
Anytime your husband helps you with even the smallest of chores, appreciate him, tell him how much you appreciate his contributions which makes a difference in how well the family function. Do not take his help for granted, otherwise you will hurt his ego, you will then find it hard to get him to help next time.
6. Be Flexible And Patient
It might take a long time before your husband gets the hang of doing house chores, so you might have to guide him on how to do some, and if he forgets to do them don’t nag just remind him. If he finds some of the chores hard to do, you can just remove it from the list.
7. Give Each Other A Hand
If there are chores he needs help in doing like carrying heavy load, moving things around the house, you can help him out. Don’t be in the habit if saying “that’s your job, do it!”. If he needs help give it to him. It even makes chores funner, as you get to laugh and play while working.
8. Don’t Nag
Women can nag, they nag to a stage that the man just tunes off and everything they are saying isn’t registering. Men sometimes do this to stop themselves from doing something rash. Nagging is not inspiring so it won’t get your husband to help with the chores it will just rile him up.
9. Don’t Order Him Around
When you need his help, humbly tell him, if you aggressively tell him, it might get him angry and he will never help you with it.
The key is sweetness and humility like the lamb, be sweet to him and he’d be ready to get you all you ever want, any time, any day.
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