When I see a child that disrespects his or her parents, the first question I ask in my mind is how did they bring him up? What surroundings did they bring him up in? There are a lot of things that causes a child to behave disrespectfully so if your child behaves in an unacceptable manner, instead of lingering on the hurt, shock and the unfairness of it all, and thinking of the things you might have done wrong in bringing up your kids, think about what you can do before it’s too late.
Below are the reasons why kids may disrespect their parents;
1. Not fulfilling your promises
Usually to stop your child from disturbing you for something at a particular time, you may promise them something even without the intention of keeping your promise. You might have forgotten, but children don’t forget and with that they may begin to distrust your words and disrespect you.
2. Inappropriate environment
It could be their school, the house you’re living it, where she stays when she gets back from school, or wherever else they get influenced negatively. Immediately you notice some strange behaviour in your kids, check the surroundings you leave them in and the people.
3. Indiscipline
It’s true that spanking is not a good way to discipline a child but that shouldn’t stop you from using other means to discipline your child when they go wrong. If you keep indulging them, they will take you for granted and may start disrespecting you.
4. Not setting boundaries
These days, parents befriend their kids and I understand their reason; so that their kids will not be afraid t open up and tell them things, and this is perfectly smart. But you need to draw a line, soon your child might start thinking you are mates and might start disrespecting you, when you are serious, give them your “I’m very serious right now” face that shows them you aren’t kidding.
5. Giving in to their every demands
When you give in to your child’s every unreasonable demands you are telling them it’s easy for them to change your mind and that makes you easy to manipulate, they’ll not stop trying you. They’ll push and push, the more you give in the more power you give them, when you finally stop giving in to their demands, they’ll talk back at you, misbehave and disrespect you. Be strong, let your “no” be “no” and they’d respect your strength.
6. Not giving them attention
If you never give your child your attention, they’ll start devising new ways to make you give them attention, if they try disrespecting you and it works (even though negatively) i.e you beat them or scold them, they’ll see that as the best way to get your attention.
7. You are disrespectful
You are the book your children read, if you talk or behave disrespectfully to your spouse or people around you, your children are learning your body language, tone of voice and attitude and they’ll do the same, model good behaviour.
8. They want to be independent
When kids feel you are sheltering them too much, limiting them and giving them restrictions they may feel cheated and frustrated and thus become disrespectful as a way of showing you they are ready to be independent, show them who the boss is.
9. Mood swing
Your child may talk rudely to you sometimes because they are having a bad time or day, it’s normal for kids to have a change in their mood.
When your child is misbehaving, find out the cause and nip it in the bud now before it’s too late. If it’s mood swing, leave them be.
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