The 6 Parenting Mistake That Have Destroyed Marriages

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No one is an expert when it comes to parenting, in the 10 years of my parenting, I’ve made some major mistakes, some of which I’ve been able to correct, it affected my marriage in ways I didn’t expect but thankfully, I was able to discover them early and make changes before it ruined my marriage but some people weren’t so lucky, some of these mistakes end up being the death of their marriage.

1. Not making time for your spouse

When kids enter marriage, it can become all too easy to focus all your time and energy on your kids and neglect your spouse. It was a long time before I was able to share the affection and attention between my kids and husband. Never forget the reason you started a family in the first place.

2. Not making time for yourself

To be able to show your children and spouse love and attention, you need to make time for yourself too. When you become unhappy, it can be hard to hold your family together.

3. Not having fun as a family

So the three dots that connect a family, is you, your spouse and the children, so make time for yourself, your spouse and your family. Go out as a family from time to time, interacting as a family is a good way to bond the family.

4. Not asking for help

For you to have the time for all these important people in your life, you need to learn to ask for help when you need it. Don’t burden yourself with everything and be left with no time for yourself or your spouse. Make your spuse know where you need their help, it’s not a must that you be the martyr and do it all. People who do that end up resenting their husband.

5. Discipline

You and your spouse can have different parenting style, try as much as possible to support each other and not see your spouse’s style as lesser to yours, be united so that you can both bring out the best in your children. Also, don’t always allow yourself be elected as the disciplinarian, you might get to hate this role, if your children see you as the tough one and your other half as the hero.

6. Bed-sharing with your kids

If sharing your bed with your kids is going to stop any romantic intimacy from happening or reduce quality sleep, then it’s best you not allow them into your bed. Some men night not talk about it, yet they resent it.

These mistakes when uncorrected may gradually cause problems in marriage until it falls apart. You can’t be the perfect parent but you can make sure you hold your family together.

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