When you marry your husband, the responsibility of caring and loving him lands at your laps and if indeed you love him, you’ll feel the urge to protect and find his happiness always. But even if you make loving and caring for him your duty, your choices and action might contradict your intention and unknowing to you, you might be ruining your husbands and marriage with little things.
Taking away the happiness of your marriage and ruining all your effort to be the good woman in her husband’s house, so here are some of those things you do unknowingly that’s destroying your husband and marriage;
1. Living beyond your means
Often times when women transit from being singles to married, they try hard to live up to expectations as a married woman, so they live beyond their means and when their husband finds it hard to provide all what they’d like, they make life unbearable for him. Show your husband support, appreciation and respect by carefully following a budget that’ll help you survive as well as make the most of the little you have.
Stop complaining about what you don’t have, and putting your husband in debt by lavishing money on your desires, say “thank you” more often and work hard to help him meet the needs of the family. Your husband will respect you and be grateful for this.
2. Constant negativity
If you are the negative one who is always hating one thing or the other, the small house you are living in, your cheap hair, your neighbor, everything! And you can’ help but vent out in anger and talk about how you hate it all.
Negativity is tiring, your husband is most likely tired of hearing all this and that may make him prefer being around his friends than being with you because you never inspire him, all you do is nag, nag, nag.
You leave him feeling out of control, have you forgotten that he has his own worries, and might want very much to share them with you, but you are too busy being being negative. Your man is happy when you are, be happy and make him happy!
3. Not putting him first
Your husband should come first, not your career, best friends, children, your family, or whatever else, but when you put them first, you are sending the message that he is less important and if this continues for years you are killing his self esteem. Put your husband first, offer him your love and care and he’d put you first too.
4. Depriving him of physical affection
It’s not only women that love attention, men do too. Sex is not the only form of intimacy husband and wife can share, touching each other is too and it will draw you two close. Even if you’re not always in the mood, give him your attention and touch him from time to time.
5. Expecting him to understand what you don’t say
We women drop the hints and expect our husbands to automatically understand, men don’t get it though. So don’t waste your time telling your husband something through your body language or attitude and when he doesn’t get it you bottle everything up inside. It will do no good, it will only cause resentment, talk to your man so you two can work things out.
Be wise Mamalettes! Don’t let little things destroy your man’s happiness and the salt of your home, make your husband happy and you’ll know happiness.
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