Chances are you already have a loving mother-in-law who loves you like her own daughter but if you are one out of the many women whose mother-in-law see as competition there's a glimmer of hope that you can get along with your mother-in-law. But you have to give her the egg-treatment and do the below;
Remember your mother-in-law loves her son and her grandchildren too so she'd fight tooth and nail to have their love.
1. Treat her like she's the All-Mighty
If she likes to take control, act like she's in control, if you try to fight her you'll always be in conflict with her, you are the boss but in your actions and talk, honor and respect her. If she teaches you something, smile and thank her like she just told you the gospel truth then do exactly what's on your mind.
2. Seek her opinion
She believes she's experienced and wish you'll just come to her more for advice so ask for her opinion even though you don't need it. When she answers you, keep nodding like you are actually taking it all in "yeeessss, true true, I've heard about it before" You might discard her advice but the fact that you asked means a lot to her. Also as you talk, use that opportunity to find out exactly what she likes and dislike. Don't ever ask about your opinion of you, if you do, you'll regret it.
3. Let her see her grandchildren
One of the reasons mother-in-laws get angry with their son's wife is if she's keeping their grandchildren from them so during holiday and weekends when you want to have some alone time with your hubby, take them all to her so they can disturb her a little. And she won't take that against you.
4. Tell her she's the favorite grandparent
Mothers can get jealous of this little things, if they find out that their grandchildren love their other grand parents more they may become jealous. "What do they give you that we don't?" "Why do you prefer going there?" They'll start getting the children to tell them things about your parents. Avoid this by telling them from time to time that they are the favourite parents, if possible, get your children to think like that too.
5. Get angry inside but tell her sorry outside
If you let your mother-in-law provoke you until you say or act rashly, my dear you'll forever regret it 'cause they'll keep reminding you (that's if she doesn't get her son to throw you out first) of what it even though they were the ones who provoked you to act. So instead of reacting rashly, tell her you're sorry you acted horribly and appreciate her awesomeness and wisdom. But deep down you are a good person although your goodness is doing training beside her awesomeness (some sweet talking is allowed).
So kick yourself afterward if you like but if kissing her feet is what'll let peace reign hen so be it.
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