If you’re a single mom or a single married mom, here are tips for you to successfully raise your child without a dad. Two hands are better than one they say but if you’re a single mom or you are married but your husband is rarely around you have no choice than to raise your child alone.
When you find yourself doing the parenting alone, it can be frustrating, trust me I know. You have to work your official job, take care of your child(ren) and household all by yourself and that’s a lot of work. The workload is even too much for two people, talk of one which means you are both the man and the woman of the house, I toast strong palmie to your strength.
There’s only problem one problem, children often long for a father or a father figure and often times the lack of one has it’s effects on them. Here are a few tips on how to successfully raise your child without a dad;
1. Get help
Without doubt you are a strong woman and you need not prove it any further by putting it all on yourself, you need and have to find a stable source of support so they can offer assistance and give you strength when you need one. This means you should allow your friends and family members help in raising your child, it will help you feel less lonely and also introduce your child to other people besides yourself.
Meanwhile, your child’s teacher need not know about this situation and if they do know, they shouldn’t treat your child differently, discrimination will cause them to misbehave and long for their father.
2. Avoid bitterness
Growing up I had a friend whose mother was parenting her alone, anytime Zika goes wrong her mother will be like “it’s not your fault, if not for that your no-good father, this wouldn’t be happening.” Zika grew up resentful of her dad and got pregnant for the first guy to show her love, then ran away with him only to become a single mother like her mom. Do not say bad thing about your “always away” husband or your ex, explain the situation honestly to your child.
3. Check your emotions
The need to always be there for your child may cause you not to stop to think about your own emotions and how to manage it, take some time to address your pain, anger and frustration.
4. Communicate
Firstly your child needs to know that even though their father isn’t always around or isn’t around at all, he loves them and why’s this? So your child don’t go thinking her father left because he hates her, this is bad! Secondly, assure your child that even though her father may not always be around, you will always be there for them.
Whether you have a husband or not to support you, it’s important you realise that your duty is to raise a happy and confident child and you can do that. And yes, if you can find a matured male as a father figure for your child, it will be nice, It could be her grandpa, uncle or your fiance (if you’re a single mom) just make sure it’s someone you can trust your child with.
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