When I lost my pregnancy at 10 weeks, it was my friend Ifeoma that I confided in because she had been there, and thankfully she knew exactly how to help me cope with the situation. There are a lot of misconceptions surrounding miscarriage, no woman ever thought they would have a miscarriage, but when it happens they are left shocked, broken and disbelieving, then they end up feeling guilty that something they did during their pregnancy caused it, which is why we need to put some misconceptions to rest.
These misconceptions can leave women feeling isolated, alone and guilty and most times they don’t talk about how they feel but by talking about it, you can help others who are going through the same thing with you deal with this situation. Here are 4 misconceptions about miscarriage and the real truths:
1. Miscarriage is just a heavier period
Early miscarriage might look like a heavier, more painful period, but if you are quite observant you’ll notice some obvious differences. There’s more cramping, the pain is more intense than a period and you might notice large clots and contraction-like pain. You need to know the difference so that when you notice such symptoms, you can see your doctor for total evacuation (in case some of the blood are retained).
2. Miscarriage was not a real baby
When I lost my baby, a sympathizer said something that made me much more sad even though she was trying to comfort me “at least it was just blood, not a real baby” What she didn’t understand is that we didn;’t just lost a child we’ll never get to know, we also lost the dreams and hope we had for that child. So no matter how old a baby was before the loss, a miscarriage was a “real baby,” worthy of a grieving process.
3. Miscarriage is not common
Miscarriage is actually very common, the only reason why it seems uncommon is because most women don’t talk about it, they just bury their grief and act like nothing happened. Others didn’t even know they were pregnant when they lost their babies to miscarriage. Ask around and you’ll find that most women have had a miscarriage at one point in their life.
4. Miscarriage was a result of something you did
In most cases, miscarriage just happens and might not be as a result of what you did and didn’t do. There are a number of reasons for a miscarriage, yet it can rarely be prevented or avoided. The leading cause of miscarriage is a chromosomal abnormality.
Please share with your friends! Helping others to understand the truth of miscarriage can alleviate some of the pain caused by these misconceptions.
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