Babies bring change to relationships, that much is public knowledge. Although if you listen to a lot of myths that people cook up about parenting, you’ll only end up destroying your relationship.
Some women expect too much from their husband when it comes to parenting, it could be because of the example their parents laid down, what they’ve read or what they see/hear their friend’s husbands do.
But haven’t you noticed? In life you can’t afford to compare your race to others, you can’t afford to compare your husband to other’s either if you do, you’re putting your marriage in jeopardy. Because if you follow this myth and use it in your marriage, they can destroy your relationship. You and your husband are a team and what
You and your husband are a team and what teammates do is compromise. And here are the common parenting myths that could destroy your marriage,
1. Men don’t know how to do baby things
What most women belief is that men go hunting for money while women take care of the child(ren). But that’s the traditional way of thinking, why can’t your husband help with some things that has to do with baby?
You can teach him if he doesn’t know how, instead of excluding him and concentrating on your baby, let him take part. That’s why most men complain that since they had a baby their wife started ignoring them when you do baby things together, things become easy and you bond as a family.
2. We will divide all baby duties 50/50
That you should do baby things together doesn’t mean you should mandate it that you have to share all the baby duties. You need to motivate him to want to help. Not that you nag or force him to. You shouldn’t be too controlling, besides the duties can’t be shared 50/50 unless you are taking stock of everything to be done. Do everything in love, don’t let your tiredness and frustration get the better of you.
3. If I’m breastfeeding, he doesn’t have to wake up
There’s no rule that said sleep deprivation is for just the mother. When you wake up to breastfeed and he wakes up too, don’t tell him to go back to sleep. Let him burp the baby or rock the baby to sleep after breastfeeding. This is a good time for a father who is always out during the day to bond with the baby and gain more confidence in his ability to take care of the baby. But if he’s the type that’ll make a fuss when you wake him up, don’t bother, just do your thing.
4. We won’t make the same mistakes our parents made
If your fear is that you don’t want to parent the way your parents did, your husband might not actually understand why you do your thing the way you do unless you voice out your fears to him, so that together you can work through parenting.
If you don’t beat, scold or nag your kids, your husband might be angry and see it as you pampering your child, but when you have a good talk, that’ll settle things. Sometimes, we just tend to be like our parents even when we fight it, I still talk to my mom when I raise my voice when talking to my kids.
For the sake of your relationship, dump the myths and let things take the normal course it should. Unknown to you, some of these little things make men feel left out, incapable and this is definitely not good for your relationship.
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