Everyday we hear of stories and situations whereby both men and women complain that their significant partner doesn’t like making love or hasn’t made love with them in a long period of time. Some people even go to the extent of insinuating that their partner are either homose.uals or maybe they are cheating on them. While in some cases these accusations are actually true there are several other cases where this accusations are false.
There are some cases whereby the person is actually Ase.ual. An ase.ual person is someone that has no interest in the act of lovemaking. According to Stuff, though not interested in physical s.x, an ase.ual person can still desire intimacy; they can value hand-holding, talking, cuddling, the general feeling of being cared for.
Just as important, or even more so, can be the desire for companionship. “Communication, closeness, fun, humour, excitement and trust all happen in nonse.ual relationships just as in se.ual ones,” says Robyn Salisbury a clinical psychologist, noting that ase.ual people are “perfectly capable of intimacy; they just don’t express that in sexual ways”
In all honesty when I first heard of Ase.uality, it did not only sound very foreign and weird, it sounded like an “oyinbo problem”. Meaning things like that cannot happen in Nigeria, remember that was what we also said about Homose.uality. However, the truth is even in this country there are cases of people who identify as being ase.ual.
While women who have undergone Female Genital Mutilation don’t find sex as pleasurable and most of them have sex with their husbands out of duty their case is different because it is more physical than psychological. In the case whereby it is psychological can you cope with a partner that doesn’t like making love? What are your thoughts on Ase.uality?
