My Children Will Not Be Getting Christmas Presents This Year
It's Christmas eve and while many parents have already bought presents for their children and some have wrapped them or planned to wrap them, in my house, no one is getting presents this year.
Let's be honest, the Nigerian economy is horrible. People are in debt and many are losing their jobs every day. From what we hear, Nigeria will still be in a recession till 2018.
While I love my children and want the best for them, the last thing I want is for them to grow up having high expectations. Children don't need too many toys or gifts at Christmastime, far from it, what they need is love and affection. So if your children are quite demanding at Christmastime, don’t buy into the idea that you need to buy them presents.
Children are not born with an instinctive set of Christmas expectations, so you can set the bar exactly where you want it. You can decide how many presents you want to give if any, how practical the presents will be, and how much money you want to spend.
Note that many studies have shown that material possessions do not equal happiness and that experiences are much more fulfilling than things. So give your children experiences this Christmastime.
Shared family time for example is drastically important for a child’s well being than presents. In fact shared family time and experiences have been linked to:
- Bonding within the family
- Fewer behavioural problems in children
- A stronger sense of identity
- A sense of security for children
- Higher rates of academic success
- Lower rates of violence
So if you ask me what my children are getting for Christmas, NOTHING. But you can bet they will have a lovely time surrounded by the love and warmth of their mum and dad and other family members.