Leaving Your Baby For The First Time? Know These Things!
If you have any cause to leave your baby at home for the first time it can be nerve-wracking even if it's just for one night. I had an event in Enugu and the same week I was planning to wean my baby I left him with my grandma, it was just for a night so I thought it would be okay, I was wrong!
I kept calling in to check on him and I felt guilty, when I couldn't sleep through the night I had to use two tablets of piritin so I can sleep and be well-rested for the next day! I was that anxious.
When I finally got home, I met my baby playing happy as ever with his grandma, poor me had a bad time and a bad trip but baby was home happy and cheery.
It's hard leaving your baby at home, but sometimes it's necessary if you have cause to leave your child at home, know these;
1. Your baby won’t notice you’re gone
If you leave your baby with someone they are already used to being with, they'd be fine. All babies need is a capable hands and familiar face(s) and they're good. Every hour you're away from your baby may feel like days but it's for the same for baby so calm down.
2. Take a hand pump along
Your flight may be delayed and your nursing breast may be full to the brim so you need a hand pump to express milk. Find a private place to pump. Let me warn you; you might cry.
3. It’s OK if you don’t call home much
You don't have to call in every minute to check in on your child, whoever is taking care of your child will call if something goes wrong. Just make sure they have a fully charged phone and a power bank so you don't die of worry when you can't reach them.
4. Your baby will be safe
The person taking care of your child may not follow your orders to the letter but your baby will be fine. They may do things differently but as long as they make sure your child is safe, keep calm.
6. It's okay to enjoy your time away from your baby
You may enjoy the time spent away from your baby and that's okay! You needed the break, no matter how short it is and that doesn't make you a bad mom.
7. Airport security may throw embarrassing questions at you
If you're travelling by air, the airport security might tell you to take apart the hand pump you're carrying and when you're coming back home you might have to explain why you have so many bags of breastmilk in your luggage. They are just doing their job, don't be embarrassed.
8. Video calls is a bad idea
It's okay to call home and see how everything is going but never ask them to show you your baby on the screen, the sight of your baby might make you cry 'cause you'll miss your little one.
9. It never gets easier
Leaving your baby at home the first, second, and third time doesn't get better but you become a pro at it. With time, you'll be able to handle the emotions better.