Accidents involving babies are common these days. And it leaves the mother feeling like a bad mom
A friend once told me how her husband beat her and when I asked why, she said, “I left my baby on the bed for a minute to get her things on the other side of the room, before I could look back, I saw her on the floor, she had rolled from the bed. I was too dazed to pick up the baby.
When my husband heard the sound, he rushed into the room and when he saw me looking at the baby on the floor, he picked her up, checked her just to make sure nothing is broken, then pounced on me” But he knows you love your baby too right? I asked “Of course, but he said I have a mission, if not, I wouldn’t be in the same room with my baby and let her fall, and then look on as she’s crying on the floor without picking her up”
I couldn’t laugh because the scenario she painted was so very funny. But seriously! What was the husband thinking? That she intended to wound the baby and then run off with another man? Very funny. But when you look at it, men are always very aggressive when it comes to their children.
A nurse shared her experience about newborn accidents, although the fear of most parents is accidentally hurting their baby, it’s very common.
She has worked for the general hospital in Ogbomosho, Oyo state for 5 years and she said babies are taken to the hospital almost every week due to accidents.
The most common accidents involve babies rolling off the bed or chair, being dropped by siblings or even parents, slipping out of prams. She said most of the time, the injuries were minor and results in only scratches, bruises and cuts.
“Recently a family were going out and the mother handed her older daughter the baby, the daughter couldn’t get a firm hold on the baby, then the baby slipped from her grips and fell, they brought the baby into the hospital bleeding, their fear was that the baby had had an external bleeding.” She continued.
A lot of accidents like that happen and new moms exhaustion can be partly to blame, mums fall and slip and when they do the baby slips off their grip, sometimes babies fall off their mother’s chest when they sleep. She advised that mothers should put their baby in the crib or cot when they are feeling exhausted or give the baby to their husband. Never leave a baby unsupervised.
She went further to say that making mistakes with your baby doesn’t mean you are a bad parent, “You shouldn’t be too hard on yourselves” she advised new parents.
“It’s pretty common, it’s just that people don’t usually talk about it. It’s something people should talk about because it doesn’t make you a terrible parent. Most times these babies end up being fine, so don’t beat yourself up with guilt, because this makes it harder to deal with.” she concluded.
Being a parent is definitely hard, don’t make it harder on yourself by feeling guilty. Instead, talk about it, it will help lessen other parents’ guilt when they know they aren’t the only one making the mistake. And if you think you aren’t getting the hang of parenthood or you are exhausted, ask for help. Give yourself a break, as a new parent you need time to readjust to the change. So if you are not really doing great, it doesn’t make you a failure, it only means you are adjusting slowly and you’ll do fine.
Mamalettes did your baby ever had an accident?
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