When I first had my first child, it was tough because I was a house slave. There was a particularly eventful day when I burst into frustrated tears. I’d been doing the house chores since morning and it seems like there’s still tons of things to do, as I made to pick up the laundry bag and start doing the laundry, my baby cried from her sleep.
I went to pick her up and breastfeed her, thinking about all the things waiting for my attention, I didn’t know when I burst into tears, feeling sorry for myself, I felt tired, drowsy, frustrated and unloved.
I scaled through it though, but I learnt some lessons from the experience and I thought I should share;
1. Know your position
Remember you are not a slave, but a home-maker and manager. Don’t try to hard to save the day or make the house free of chaos. Each day, there’s something to accomplish, whether you accomplish it fully or not, just try your best to make the most of your time, but don’t try too much and break down.
2. Know your worth
When you know your worth, it becomes easier to manage things. You are not just a house wife but a creator, a manager, a mother, a wife, a daughter, a hard worker among so many other things.
When you know your worth, you’ll be eager to manage your home, show appreciation for the life you have being given, and happily take charge of the responsibilities you have; which are your child and husband.
3. Be prepared for everything coming your way
Don’t be caught unawares, a typhoid might arise in the middle of the night, get your medicine box equipped with drugs including oral rehydration salt. And when your home seems to always be in constant shambles, don’t despair, keep on top of things by always doing chunks of works on busy days, so they don’t pile up.
4. Have a written daily routine
Each day for each chore, Monday to Friday, if you do the cooking on Sunday, shopping and laundry on Saturday, Ironing on Wednesday etc, even if you use just one hour for each chore, you will accomplish something at the end of the day. Have a schedule that’ll work fine for you.
5. Clean on the go
Don’t wait till your house looks like the rat’s den before you start cleaning, when you are going to the bedroom and you see a pair of socks on the floor, pick them up, you can pick up a broom and do a quick sweep before leaving for work, then grab a water can and wash your hand, you just cleaned up the house Mamalette!
And in all, don’t strive too much to take care of your home and forget to pay attention to your husband, remember, your house, your child and your husband are what makes up your home, don’t neglect one for the other.
