In today’s world we have heard of a lot of cases of couples giving birth through surrogacy, even celebrities have been very open about using surrogates to give birth. In 2015, supermodel Tyra Banks welcomed a baby boy with the help of a surrogate at the age of 42 after years of infertility. Also Giuliana Rancic, the former E! News host used a surrogate to give birth to her son after discovering she had early-stage breast cancer, famously undergoing a double mastectomy and reconstruction and then struggling to get pregnant. In October 2013, ex-Miss Nigeria, Nike Oshinowo welcomed a set of twins a boy and a girl, via a gestational surrogate in the United States of America after years of dealing with endometriosis.
There are a lot of success stories regarding surrogacy so why is it a taboo in Nigeria to give birth through a surrogate or even adopt a child? This outlook has made a lot of couples dealing with infertility ashamed to use this method to have children.
Surrogacy even gives you the option of having a biological child, this technique called "in vitro fertilization" (IVF) now makes it possible to gather eggs from the mother, fertilize them with sperm from the father, and place the embryo into the uterus of a gestational surrogate. The surrogate then carries the baby until birth. The surrogate mother doesn't have any genetic ties to the child because it wasn't her egg that was used.
A gestational surrogate is called the "birth mother." The biological mother, though, is still the woman whose egg was fertilized.So the question is why in this day and age is surrogacy or adoption frowned upon. People even go to the extent of pretending to be pregnant and then buying babies in order to prevent the backlash that would come from adopting a child or using a surrogate.
In today’s society you can get egg donors and sperm donors for couples dealing with infertility. So this means that even when a man is infertile his partner can use a sperm donor to get pregnant and vice versa.
A lot of couples undergo IVF with no success and spend a lot of money without even considering the surrogacy or adoption option. Even though surrogacy and adoption is not fully acceptable in Nigeria there are still a lot of agencies who claim to provide these services. These agencies connect couples with surrogate mothers, sperm donors and even egg donors to enable them have a child of their own.
The question we then need to ask ourselves is if this is a viable method to help couples have children of their own why is it so frowned upon in Nigeria. Why does a woman need to physically carry her child for her to be regarded as “The Child’s Mother” even though the child is biologically hers?